How to change a belief for a better reality

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It is scientifically proved that your mindset can change your life. Even psychologists study belief formation and the relationship between beliefs and actions.

In one of the studies conducted by Carol Dweck and Lisa Blackwell they took a group of seven graders and observed their behavior for two years. The study showd that those students that thought they could change their intelligence increased their grades over time while the part of the group that did not believe in their ability to change their itelligence did not increase their grades. This shows that there is real physical consequences in our beliefs.

Spiritually speaking we live in a reality that is build by our thought processes and beliefs. The thoughts we think creates what we see by the law of attraction like a program running in the background. Most of it – studies show 95% – is subconscious and the rest of it sometimes obnoxiously obvious. The subconscious really is the driving force to every decision and action we do.

Where the beliefs eminate is from the past, from the experiences we had in our childhood. For example hearing “no we can’t afford that”, “we don’t have enough money”, no this and no that can create a subconscious negative connotation related to money. That again determines the persons actions around money in his/her life. He/she might think that in life it is a struggle to get money and to take care of the finances.

A good way to find out your true subconscious beliefs is to ask yourself related to any subject: blank is               . For example: money is                . The answer is the first one that comes to you instantly.

By the time the belief is formed, it continues to effect our reality by getting even stronger with every similar event to the belief creating even more evidence of its false trueness. It is a pattern that won’t change if we do not change.

The beauty in all of this is: we have the power to change our thoughts and beliefs. We are not bound or doomed by them. We can be in the leashes of our own life creation – if we want to be.

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So, how do you exactly change your beliefs?

Changing your thoughts is a matter of systematically dealing with the tricks of how a belief is formed. It’s a matter of identifying the belief, examining it, deciding your preferred belief, determining emotions attached to the belief and figuring out explanations against the old and for the new belief. It’s also good to look at our way of speaking with our words and our body language.

Our words in our internal and external dialogue helps to program the body. The programming means that the brain adapts itself by making the neuropathways stronger everytime we use a certain word or a phase. It is then important to look at how we talk to ourselves. Affirmations are good for this in bridging the gab between the old and the new belief, the way we used to talk about ourselves and how we want to talk about ourselves.

Thoughts are not only mental, but they are also in relatinship with our body and have spesific emotions and feelings to them. If you compare how you feel sayin the sentense “I am powerful” in a hunched gaze to the ground posture and then in a straight back gaze staight forward posture you will feel significantly different saying the phase. Your body notices postures and reacts to them. That’s why there’s a thing called power pose in psychology that is made to make you feel more confident in for example public speaking situations.

As to changing the belief systematically, a good analogy for this is to think that the belief is like a table glued to the floor. The tabletop is the belif, the legs its evidental proof and the glue, keeping it all tightly placed, the emotions backing it all up. Ones we loosen the glue we are able to weaken the legs that will eventually crash the whole table to the ground.

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Here’s the whole prosess. You can watch Teal Swans How To Change A Belief video on Youtube for more troughout information if you please.

  1. Identify the belief
    Find the belief you are now willing to change. It’s always a good idea to check if you can find a core belief that will change more of the core problem of the original belief. You can learn how to do it by watching Teal Swans video titled How To Find A Core Belief in Youtube.
  2. Examine the belief which you held
    Look at how the belief is actually benefitial to you and how is it detrimental to you. For example if you believed that you are not good enough the benefit could be that you get pity and support from others. But again it could at the same time make you less of what you could be in this lifetime and rip you from experiences and relationships that could be more than inspirational to your life.
    After you’ve examined the benefits and detrimentals, it’s time to decide weather it’s more the formal or the latter, to see weather the belief is worth the benefits dispite the downsides it causes. If the matter comes to it being better to change the belief it’s time to look at the opposite side of the spectrum.
  3.  decide what would you rater belief
    It’s time to see what could possibly be on the other side of the negetive belief. It can be as easy as I am not good enough being I am good enough.
  4. Determine the emotions that are holding you to the belief
    The emotions are the superglue keeping the belief seemingly benefitial to keep. It works like that because it creates emotional pay off for your life. For example thinking “I am alone” could give you a sense that you don’t have to make an effort to social relationships. What we need to deside is if the pay off is worth the limitations the belief creates.
  5. Figure out an alternative explanation for your belief
    Replace the evidence that you’re using to back up the old belief with new evidence, that will make the belief more untrue. For example, someone believing “I am not good enough” could have “My father didn’t spend time with me in my childhood” as an evidence. The counter evidence could be: “My fathers tough childhood made him afraid of intimacy. Him not being with me wasn’t because I’m not good enough but was a result of the traumas he had as a child.”
  6. Look for new evidence of your new belief
    Now look at how the new belief is true. How are you good enough? You might realize: “I have good things to share”. Make the new belief your focus and reinforce it with for example articles, movies and books that are related to the belief.
  7. Use affirmation (correctly)
    Affirmations can be a great tool for self love and belief changing. You only have to take notice which affirmations will be benefitial for you at this time – if you use straight up an affirmation that you actually don’t believe to be true, it will only make you feel bad about yourself and do no good. Instead place steppingstones on the road of closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
    For instanse someone thinking “I am not good enought” could use “I am a captivating person” and “I have valuable things to share with people” as her/his affirmations on the way to the belief of “I am good enough”.

For me this technique helped to come more into terms with my depression. I held a strong belief that this is going to be forever and that my healt is only going to go downhill. But after using this process the grip of the beliefs loosened up, I even found myself being ever so slightly optimistic about my future. Truly a life changer. Was it the drugs kicking in or the changing of the belief, and I really do believe it was by doind that, I felt better than before. I felt good. I hadn’t felt good for some time then.

This is truly an empovering process. You will come to grips of your own power to create your own reality, to take control of your lifes ways of sabotaging your true happiness and the truth of you. The truth that you are no seperate being from god, the universe, the one, the ever present stillness, what ever you want to call it. You are it. There’s no other way. And now is the time to see, you are worthy of the life you dream of, of all the abudance that is only wating for you to collect its goods. You are. You create, like you’ve created before. To do it consciously is only a matter of will.

How to detach from thoughts by meditating

A good thing to do is to make space from your thought prosesses. Sometimes some thoughts are so grabby and visious they create a negative spiral that is more or less painfull. Meditating is good for this problem. Close your eyes, take a couple of deep breaths relaxing and centering your mind and imagine a deep blue sky. That deep blue sky is deepened by the light of the sun. The sky is still in you and can not be shaken. Thoughts will arrive. Let them drift by like clouds in the sky. Sometimes they obscure the sky with their heaviness but only let them be and go by your deep blue sky. When the thoughts arrive, they will trigger feelings in your body. Observe them and let them be. They are neither god or bad. A feeling just is as it is. It comes and goes. Do this as long as you like, then take your attention from the deep blue sky to your breath. Observe the breath. After you are ready, wiggle your toes and open your eyes.

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